Darkly Darling 10th Anniversary

 My Dearest Darlings,

I never thought I would be writing on this blog for ten years. To be honest it's been a patchy account of things, touch-and-go as life went on.

I started this blog as a college student, as a way to share my interest in Lolita and other Japanese fashions. It's interesting to look back at past trends, the way my outfits evolved, and little ways I incorporated by passions into my lifestyle.

From learning to sew, to attending cons, and even studying abroad in Japan, Lolita fashion and its related hobbies has shaped my life. 

 I'd say it was all for the better. 

The Lolita community has given me lifelong friends, and valuable connections. I've also found a sense of self-accomplishment that can never be replaced.

That being said, I think it is time to take a step back and focus on other things.

2020 has been a difficult year for everyone. I don't need to rehash our shared struggles, or elaborate on my personal ones. One thing this year has taught me, good or bad, is that Lolita is no longer the cornerstone of my life. 

Perhaps it was the lack of in-person meet-ups this year, or the lack of fluid income. Maybe the designs are a little too static nowadays, or maybe it's just me. Whatever the cause, I've pared back my wardrobe significantly- if I complete an annual wardrobe post, as in past years, you'll see how my style has become more simple; "back to black". 

Instead, I've been really interested in kimono. I'd like to hear from you, if you'd like to learn more about the different types and formalities of dress, how to tie obi, and sewing lessons. 

I've also stepped up my participation in the Dir en grey and Visual Kei community. I've been a longtime fan, but also a wallflower. I finally overcame some social anxieties, and started networking with other fans online.

Lastly, I signed up for Dir en grey's fan club, -a knot-. I wanted to do this for years, but there were many hurdles causing me to procrastinate. If there is interest, I could write about how to enroll in the fanclub even if you live overseas. 

Though my focus is shifting away from the Lolita community, it is not entirely gone. I like to think of it as more of a kaleidoscope, the glass pieces changing colors and forms as they blend together into new designs. 

It is inseparable from my love of Japan and it's youth street cultures. It was the door that led me here. 

So 10 years since my first entry on this blog, I'm stepping back to say I'm sorry for my absence; and I hope you stick around a little longer. 

If there is more you would like to know about, in the fields of:

• Visual Kei
• Street Fashion History
• Kimono and traditional fashion
• Being a long-term Lolita

I'd love to hear from you. I may be the Captain of this ship, but I take itinerary suggestions.

Sincerely, and with gratitude,

Erica